Love through the eyes of a Buddhist monk

The legendary Zen-Buddhism teacher is wearing a khan that to love is first of all to

understand another person.

About a big heart

If you dissolve a handful of salt in a cup of water, it will not be possible to drink water. But if you pour this salt into the river, it will still be possible to take water from it for cooking, washing and drinking. The river is immense, and it has the ability to accept, hug and transform.

If the heart is small, then the ability to understand and empathy is limited, and we suffer. We cannot accept the imperfection of others and demand that they change. But when our hearts become more, the same things no longer make us suffer. We have a lot of understanding and empathy, and we can reveal our arms to others. We accept them as they are, and then they have a chance to change.

About non -existent boundaries

In a truly deep relationship, the border between you and the other person disappears. He is you, and you are him. Your suffering is his suffering. When you are aware of your own suffering, you help your loved one suffer less. Suffering and happiness no longer seem to you with sole concepts. What is happening with a loved one is happening with you.

What is happening to you is happening with your loved one. There is no more separation or discrimination in true love. His happiness is your happiness. Your suffering is his suffering. You can no longer say “this is your problem”.

About the essence of love

The essence of deep love is to be able to offer happiness. You can become a ray of light for another person. It is impossible to offer happiness to someone until you yourself experience it. Therefore, build a cozy house inside yourself, accepting yourself and learning to love and heal yourself. Practice awareness to create moments of happiness and joy for your own recovery.

Then you will have something to offer another person. When we feed and support our own happiness, we take care of our ability to love. This is why love means mastering the art of nourish your happiness. If you have enough understanding and love, then every minute – whether you spend it by preparing breakfast, driving a car, pouring a garden or doing any other thing during the day – maybe a minute of joy.

Understanding other people’s suffering is the best gift that you can give to another. Understanding is another name for love. If you don’t understand, you cannot love.

How to love

Often we fall in love not because we really love and understand the object of our passion, but to distract ourselves from our own suffering-life troubles, unpleasant emotions. When we learn to love and understand ourselves and really compass ourselves, then we can truly love and understand another person.

To love without realizing how we love is to hurt a loved one. To know how to love, we must understand another. To understand, you need to listen.

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